Showing posts with label engagement stories. Show all posts
Showing posts with label engagement stories. Show all posts

Friday, June 06, 2008

Poetry Friday: You and Me, May Be

In college, I was good friends with Erika of the vibrant red hair and chocolate brown eyes. When Erika started to date Mark, my fellow English major, we all were pleased. They were great together, and they didn't make their single friends feel awkward with all of their smoochiness. We knew they were bound to get married, but they wanted the engagement to be an event of sorts. Mark took his time. Sometimes, Erika would yell to Mark across campus, "Slow!" Mark told Erika that when he proposed, the whole campus would know.

Mark and I were both on the board of a poetry publication called Broadside. Normally, the submissions we'd get would be anonymous (unless they were by Seamus Heany, Denise Levertov, Yevgeny Yevtushenko, or Gwendolyn Brooks, and yes, I'm showing off now). However, Mark submitted the following poem signed with his name:



Mark was open to some suggestions for tweaking the poem, but not to others. "Rhyme and rhythm stays," he said. I noted privately that it was intriguing as to why Mark had chosen to justify the margins of the poem, but foolish mortal that I was, didn't pursue the matter.

We published the poem as we did all the Broadside poems: on a single piece of heavy paper, with the poet signing each one for a byline. Everyone on campus who subscribed to Broadside received the poem. Soon after, I got an excited phone call from Erika. "Mark proposed! Mark proposed!" she said. She told me that he read the poem aloud to her and then told her to read the first and last letters down each side of the poem: They spelled, "WILL YOU marry me."

Some of the grownup subscribers in the community complained that they thought the poem was misogynistic, but when one of the English professors pointed out the double acrostic, they said, "Oh, okay then." It was usually fun when a Broadside poem raised any sort of fuss, because it was evidence that the poetry did matter.

Mark and Erika got married at the college church. It was a lovely service, the maids of honor wore green velvet dresses, and Erika played violin at the reception. Many professors were invited, too, and the same English professor who came to Mark's defense of the poem originally said to me, "Just so you know, we professors love going to our students' weddings. That is a hint!" (Unfortunately, none of them were able to make it out to my Seattle wedding, but so it goes.)

Epilogue: Mark is an associate History professor at Eastern Mennonite University. Erika teaches nursing at James Madison University and is completing her Ph.D in Nursing at the University of Virginia. They are raising two children. Mark just got a Fulbright scholarship and is heading to Croatia, and his family will join him later in the year. As far as I know, they are all living happily ever after.

Sarah Reinhard of Just Another Day of Catholic Pondering is doing the Poetry Friday Roundup in the Kidlitosphere. Speaking of the Kidlitosphere, have you thought anymore about going to the Second Annual Kidlitosphere Conference in Portland, Oregon? If it is at all feasible for you to go, I'd love to see you there.

Tuesday, June 03, 2008

Minh Le, Look Away From This Post Right Now

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Minh Le of Bottom Shelf Books is getting married to Aimee, his finance, on August 16. You may recall his engagement story which involved a diagram in order to make it a surprise. I am not that clever, but I have some ideas for a Surprise Project. Please email me if you're interested in being part of it.

Friday, March 07, 2008

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

How Did You Get Engaged?

One of my favorite questions to ask couples is, "How did you meet?" One of my other favorite questions is, "How did you get engaged?" (if in fact the couple is engaged or married). I love it when the couples tell me their stories, and try not to get too dejected when the answer is, "None of your business" or "It's private!"

Minh Le of Bottom Shelf Books has just gotten engaged to his long-time girlfriend Aimee, and he spills the storytelling beans here. Mazel tov, Minh. Just you wait until you find out that all your blogfriends are planning to hide behind the trees on your wedding day and jump out to surprise you with silly-string and confetti. It's going to be a blast.

I invite the rest of you to share your engagement stories today's comments section. Bede's and my official engagement was bittersweet, as he had planned to propose to me on the Victoria Clipper precisely a year after we'd started dating. However, when my grandfather went into the hospital, he rushed to get the engagement ring early so that I could show it my grandfather before my grandfather died. (I had said I didn't need an engagement ring, but when I got it, of course I loved it.) One of the last things my grandpa said before he died was, "Give Orpha [my grandmother] a great-grandchild." Thankfully, I delivered.